On April Fool’s day everyone on tumblr should change their icon to different variations of Nicolas Cage’s face
Or all follow Cole Sprouse on Twitter, then unfollow him the next day and say it was a social experiment
everybody reblog this
spread the news
- Depression: Don't tell me you understand because you get sad sometimes.
- Insomnia: Don't tell me you're an insomniac because you missed a few nights of sleep.
- Eating Disorder: Don't tell me you have an eating disorder because you missed a meal.
- Bipolar: Don't tell me you're bipolar because you get mood swings on your period.
- Anxiety: Don't tell me you have anxiety because you got nervous before an exam.
- ADHD: Don't tell me you have ADHD because you're hyper sometimes
- Schizophrenic: Don't tell me you're a schizo because you sometimes see shadows and hear sounds at night.
- Just don't.
psa: masculinity and femininity are not some spectrum. they are not opposites and do not belong at opposite ends of a pole, so that you lie x place between them.
no man is emasculated and thus effeminate. no woman becomes defeminized and thus masculine.
not only is this a false idea of the gender/sex binary that erases identities and experiences, it is especially harmful to trans*/genderqueer people whose identities are typically more heavily placed on concepts of masculinity and femininity.
- spanish and italian: So THESE words are feminine and THESE words are masculine, and you ALWAYS put an adjective AFTER the noun.
- french: haha i dont fuckin know man just do whatever
- german: LET'S ADD A NEUTRAL NOUN HAHA
- english: *shooting up in the bathroom*
- gaelic: the pronounciation changes depending on the gender and what letter the word starts and ends with and hahah i dont even know good fucking luck
- polish: here have all of these consonants have fun
- japanese: subject article noun article verb. too bad there's three fucking alphabets lmao hope your first language isn't western
- welsh: sneeze, and chances are you've got it right. idfk
- chinese: here's a picture. draw it. it means something. it can be pronounced three different ways. these twenty other pictures are pronounced the same but have very different meanings. godspeed.
- Arabic: so here's this one word. it actually translates to three words. also pronouns don't really exist. the gender is all in the verb. have fun!
- Latin: here memorize 500 charts and then you still dont know what the fuck is happening
how the voices of POC get pitted against each other all the time, and it’s usually done to
- affirm some kind of racist/ culturally appropriative act
- affirm the idea that POC are a monolith
Like during The Great Bindi Debate on Tumblr, there were so many ppl going ‘but I talked to someone who lives in India and they said it was ok!’. There were even desis from the homeland chiming in to tell us diasporic desis that we’re making too much of it and that they don’t care if white people wear bindis and so neither should we.
Let me be clear: these are not conversations in which white people have any prerogative. The concerns of our activism and identity are ‘family’ conversations that POC have with each other, so stop appropriating the differences in our perspectives to further silence and disenfranchise us.
And secondly, I’m tired of the voices of POC in the homelands being used to discredit diasporic voices. The issue of western privilege is real, and I know that many times POCs in the global north speak over our brothers and sisters in the global south. But, it’s never ok to tell me that my activism is not valid because you it doesn’t affect you. Sure, when I’m in Sri Lanka talking to my friends and reading the news, I don’t care as much about some white girls wearing bindis. I care about issues like the genocide of Tamil folks and the issue of IDPs and resettlement and gender violence at the structural and personal level and shadeism etc. I’m capable of having multiple avenues of activism!
I’m capable of thinking in multiplicity, according to how I’m positioned by social and political forces, according to how I’m connected to the communities I’m immersed in.
So like…can we just broaden this conversation and stop invalidating different forms of POC activism? White supremacy and imperialism are chimerical and they manifest differently according to a host of other factors. Our responses need to be equally diverse and versatile
IDK i’m possibly talking out of my ass here, so check me if you think so
on a textual level, a female character can dress however she wants and shouldn’t be slut-shamed and hated for what she prefers to wear.
on a metatextual level, she might still have been designed with an intention to provide fanservice.
this means that criticising a design, as opposed to a character, is neither misogyny nor slut-shaming. being displeased about the way a character has been designed is not synonymous with hating her.
have i made myself clear?
Here is a list of everything I am mad at Bryn Mawr for:
1) Radnor. Dean Rasmussen never so much as sent an email to address that email, why we had to deal with Fox News on our campus, why we had to spend midterms in a shitstorm of uninformed media attention.
2) Haffner. Why close a dorm during a housing shortage AND financial trouble? Literally makes no sense.
3) Dining Services. How is it possible that our food is like, the best college food in the country and we’re not giving enough money to dining services?
4) Study Abroad. So rising juniors are only supposed to study abroad in the fall. So when EVERYONE comes back in the spring, where are they supposed to go? Theoretically, half of the students go in the fall and half go in the spring, then we just switch out the rooms and everyone has a place to sleep.
5) JMac. Everything is so unstable right now and so yes, let’s add MORE instability by losing our president, spending a year with an interim president, and then getting a new real president.
6) Everything about VBM. Are courses online or aren’t they? Why are they some places but not others? Why the EVER-LOVING FUCK can I search for classes from 1992?
I just feel like this place that is my home, that I love so much, is falling the fuck apart and there’s nothing I can do to stop it.
Why are “naturally thin” and “born with a fast metabolism” totally acceptable explanations for weight, but “naturally fat” and “born with a slow metabolism” seen as “excuses” for “laziness/irresponsibility/greediness”?
Answer: ignorance, fat stigma and discrimination.
Male privilege is oversexualizing a normal part of a woman’s body to the point where she is punished for wearing a pair of shorts at school. They are legs and they get me where I need to go. I don’t “display” them for your enjoyment, I just made a mistake by assuming that partially exposing an appropriate part of my body on an 80 degree day wouldn’t land me in detention.
THE FUCKING TRUTH BEHIND THIS HURTS.
You seem to be forgetting that demisexual additionally means a person who experiences themself as asexual most of the time and experiences sexual attraction only to people they’ve known for a long time, so no, this would not “theoretically apply to anyone.” Demisexuality can mean that you don’t know if you’ll ever be sexually attracted to your partner.
Sexual attraction is not the same as willingness to engage in sexual behavior. Sexual attraction is that thing that makes it occur to you, without prompting or outside influence, that you might want to involve sexual activity in a relationship. Attraction is not behavior. If you’d spent any amount of time talking to actual demisexual people, you’d know that.
p.s. Although it can accompany love, sexual attraction is also not love. Thanks for implying that I’m incapable of experiencing the strongest human emotions simply because I don’t experience sexual attraction!
I can tell that you’re a person that I can have an honest discussion with. Aside from that complete misinterpretation of what I said at the bottom, you seem to have your head on straight. I admire that.
However, there are a few points that I would like to clarify.
- I am, believe it or not, completely willing to accept demisexuality as an extension of the asexual umbrella. The thing is, though, what specifically separates the two? Are asexuals not allowed to find people attractive at all? Or is it only the demisexuals that are allowed to possibly experience sexual attraction after an arbitrary period of time? How long is this time? What is the nature of the attraction as opposed to a non-asexual person?
- How can you say that attraction is not a behavior? No, all right, it’s not an interpersonal behavior, but it is a behavior. It has its triggers, its stimulus, and can be reinforced positively or negatively. Hence my hyperbolic (i.e. completely off-the-wall for the sake of arguing a point) comparison of the fetishist. He literally cannot achieve that level of arousal without certain conditions being met. And as far as I know, that is both deviant as well as maladaptive on its own.
- Your research is interesting, but — and you’ll have to forgive me for this — I feel as though a forum, a blog, and a specious article are not enough to convince me. A peer-reviewed article would be nice to have.
Also, I am aware that I may have seen heavy-handed with my discounting of demisexuality. But just like homeopathy, aromatherapy, fortune-telling, and religious devotion, I am understandably concerned about the clarity and intellectual honesty of what it means for people as a whole. And I cannot back it up with any rigor without a systemic understanding of its causation, methodology, phylogeny, and development.
THIS EXPLAINS EVERYTHING. WE HAVE A ZEALOUS ATHEISTIC PSYCH OR SOC OR SOME OTHER SOCIAL SCIENCE MAJOR ON OUR HANDS.
Oh was I too angry and irrational to have an ‘honest discussion’ with? Then please explain to me how you intend to debunk the points I made in opposition-whether you like my tone or not. Also, A+ for shutting down a potential conversation just because you were too offended by my response to deal with the content…UNLIKE ME.
And, clarifications (I’m going to start quoting you, forgive the length):
- “I am, believe it or not, completely willing to accept demisexuality as an extension of the asexual umbrella.”
That’s great bro, then why are you saying it doesn’t exist as an actual orientation and is inherently sex negative?
“The thing is, though, what specifically separates the two? Are asexuals not allowed to find people attractive at all?”
Point one, asexuals are allowed to do anything that doesn’t hurt other people. People can ID as ace whether they meet the strict definition ‘does not experience sexual attraction to other people’ or not. However, that definition does mean that demisexuals are not asexual, since they sometimes can experience sexual attraction. That’s why they’re part of the grey-asexual spectrum. Since grey-asexuals experience sexual attraction so rarely that they are more like asexuals than consexuals, sexual orientation wise, and experience many of the problems that asexuals do for their orientation.
“Or is it only the demisexuals that are allowed to possibly experience sexual attraction after an arbitrary period of time? How long is this time? What is the nature of the attraction as opposed to a non-asexual person?”
Time isn’t a factor. Emotional closeness is. This is going to be subjective for each and every relationship each and every demisexual person is in, so your attempt to get a generalization is obnoxious and seems like an attempt to grab at a strawman to knock down.
- ‘How can you say that attraction is not a behavior? No, all right, it’s not an interpersonal behavior, but it is a behavior. It has its triggers, its stimulus, and can be reinforced positively or negatively.
Like I said, OH DEAR GOD AN EFFING SOCIAL SCIENCES MAJOR. Fun fact! We’re using different definitions of behavior than the one you had to learn for your program of study! Yes, learn, in a classroom or from a book, since the understanding you had of the word ‘behavior’ before you learned it was nothing like ‘requires triggers and stimuli and can be reinforced.’ But fine, asshole. Let’s go with “conscious behavior” or “controlled behavior” or “decided upon behavior” and have that mean ways in which a person chooses to behave (for instance: you can choose to have sex or choose not to have sex but cannot choose who you are sexually attracted to because that is part of your sexual orientation) so you can quit getting your god damn knickers in a twist over incorrect definitions.
‘Hence my hyperbolic (i.e. completely off-the-wall for the sake of arguing a point) comparison of the fetishist. He literally cannot achieve that level of arousal without certain conditions being met. And as far as I know, that is both deviant as well as maladaptive on its own.’
Again, your comparison of someone being attracted sexually to another human to a fetish is degrading. Sexual attraction is NOT THE SAME as sexual arousal. Sexual attraction is the impulse to have sex directed at a specific, concrete person or group of people. Sexual arousal is the result of hormones in the body and may or may not present at times when experiencing sexual attraction or sexual stimulation, unless you want to tell me that you’re sexually attracted to something every time you wake up aroused. And finally MY SEXUAL ORIENTATION IS NOT DEVIANT OR MALADAPTIVE AND IT IS SO SO SO SO SO SO SO ASSHOLE-Y AND FULL OF OPPRESSIVE HETERONORMATIVITY THAT YOU THINK IT IS OKAY TO SAY THAT ABOUT SOMETHING YOU’RE EXPRESSLY COMPARING MY SEXUAL ORIENTATION TO.
- ‘Your research is interesting, but — and you’ll have to forgive me for this — I feel as though a forum, a blog, and a specious article are not enough to convince me. A peer-reviewed article would be nice to have.’
You realize that asexuality has only been in the public eye (as much as it has been, good lord) for about a decade right? THE RESEARCH IS BEING WORKED ON. DEMANDING MORE THAN EXISTS RIGHT NOW IS PURE DOUCHECANOE-ERY. IN THE MEANTIME, FUCKING LISTEN TO ASEXUALS AND DEMISEXUALS AND OTHER GREY- ASEXUALS SINCE THAT’S HOW THE RESEARCH IS BEING CONDUCTED IN THE FIRST PLACE, YOU ENTITLED PIECE OF SHIT.
‘Also, I am aware that I may have seen heavy-handed with my discounting of demisexuality. But just like homeopathy, aromatherapy, fortune-telling, and religious devotion, I am understandably concerned about the clarity and intellectual honesty of what it means for people as a whole. And I cannot back it up with any rigor without a systemic understanding of its causation, methodology, phylogeny, and development.’
Youuuuu are an assholeeeeee. That’s literally the only thing I can make out of this last paragraph.